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How do you dance with closeness?
Relationship pattern
Reflect on how you respond to closeness and distance.
30 questions · About 8 minutes
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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER
A closer look at your patterns.
- Reflect on how you respond to closeness and distance.
- Explore patterns of reassurance-seeking and withdrawal.
- Find language for your needs without treating a pattern as a fixed identity.
Your full reading explores strengths, areas that may take more effort, and practical directions to try. How these fit your life is something to reflect on, not a verdict about you.
Areas you will explore
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A different way to reflect.
This test is set in a ballroom. The music starts, you come closer, you move apart, the rhythm breaks and there is one last dance. The ballroom is a metaphor: the steps and the distance stand for how you handle closeness and separation.
Answer at your own pace. You can return to earlier questions before saving your reading.
A few questions to sit with
Examples from this test. Your answers are not collected here.
With new people I open up
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THE IDEAS BEHIND IT
Informed by research. Made for reflection.
Attachment theory, the two ECR dimensions: anxiety and avoidance.
These are original questions informed by these models, not the original validated questionnaires. The reading does not provide a clinical assessment or population percentile.
This test touches on close relationships and can bring up personal memories. You can stop at any time. It is a tool for self-reflection, not a diagnosis.
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How long does it take?
There are 30 questions. Allow about 8 minutes; your pace may vary. There is no question timer.
Are there right answers?
There are no right or wrong answers. Choose what best reflects your experience, rather than what seems desirable.
Is this a diagnosis?
No. This is a self-reflection tool. It does not replace professional advice, assessment or treatment.
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